Jul 10 2009
Delayed Toddler? B is now 3! (And Still No Diagnosis)
I can’t believe my little girl is now three. I’m not sure if three is still considered a toddler, but we’ll have to go with it for now. She is so excited today because her sister’s birthday was last month and so now she has a pretty good idea about what birthdays are. After she opened her gift, she looked at me and said, “Where my cake?” See, it’s all about priorities and in our house, cake is right up there (especially if it’s chocolate cake!).
So, she’s 3 today and we’re still no closer to having a diagnosis for B. We’ve made some definite headway and gained some ground this year which is a big relief on it’s own, but I still want to know what I’m dealing with. I had a small “meltdown” of my own yesterday, I was just at a loss of what to do and how to help B. It was a frustrating day and she was…well, she was being her little self. My husband smiled and said, “I don’t know either, but I think for now all we can do is love her.” And so, that’s what we do. We do what we can and we love her through the rest and take it one day at a time.
you didn’t explain what she’s delayed about…
yes I’m a bit confused by this too.
Stay strong and patient - sometimes I work with “special needs” children and they are definitely “special” - it sounds like she speaks so that is a blessing - sometimes you have to find other ways to understand their communications but it all worth it.
Sorry, my intent was not to confuse anyone. It was more that I was wondering if I can still call B a toddler because she’s now 3 years old.
truth2u, thank you! You are so right. She is a special little girl–very happy and loving. She is delayed in speech, but she’s making huge progress now. We are learning to find ways to communicate with her that are meaningful to her and it’s been great to watch!
I know a dad who had a feeling his little girl was “different.” Her mother didn’t see it that way at first, and neither did the first doctors he took her to. But he persisted, and finally she was diagnosed as having a mental disability. She was enrolled in the special needs program at day care, and continued through school in special needs classes with excellent teachers. Unfortunately, she has made some heartbreaking choices as a young woman. If I might give you some advice on behalf of this couple, I think they would tell you to enjoy the years when she is little, and to pray much for her. The world is not always kind to people with disabilities, and perhaps women are particularly vulnerable.